What are some things that you could ask your girlfriend when playing Truth or Dare?


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Deborah Mann answered
This question makes you sound as if you are quite young, and that you are looking to get some kind of thrill from playing the game.

It also sounds as if you know exactly what kinds of questions that you want to ask her but you are either too shy, too timid, or you want someone to give you permission to do it.
Asking Questions
Playing truth or dare is a way of finding out more about the person that you are asking the questions to, and it can be quite revealing. 
It can be quite innocent fun, but it can also be intrusive and upsetting - not just for the person being questioned, but for the person who is doing the asking, because they may discover some things that they were not prepared for.

Rules of The Game
Truth or dare needs at least two people to participate, and one player asks another, "truth or dare"? The person being asked has to choose which one they want. 
If they choose "truth", they are asked a question (which is usually risqué and embarrassing). Then, the player has to answer it.

If the person being asked selects 'dare', then they are dared to do something - again, usually embarrassing.
 In both cases, if the person being asked fails to answer, or to do the dare, they are given a dare that is more challenging than the last.

You are not allowed to choose 'truth' more than three times consecutively, otherwise you have to pay the penalty of two dares afterwards.

Some people play the game with cards, so they have no choice between telling a truth or completing a dare. It is also possible to buy cards that have questions on them already, so it's totally random for all players.
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Lily Bradic answered

I think you need to be very careful with this. If you're both young, or if this is a new relationship, you could very easily end up pressuring your girlfriend into doing (or saying) something that she doesn't want to. If you make her feel uncomfortable, that's it - game over, you're dumped.

Without knowing what your relationship is like, I can't really give you any suggestions for what to ask your girlfriend. I can, however, advise that you avoid the following if you're young, or if the relationship is new:

  • Anything sexual. She'll think you're after one thing from her, and that's definitely not how you want to come across. Not only will you make your girlfriend feel uncomfortable by asking her intimate questions, but you might even get a reply that'll make you feel uncomfortable. Definitely don't ask her if she's a virgin or how many guys she's slept with.
  • Anything about previous relationships. Don't ask, because although you're probably wondering, you don't want to know. If she tells you about her ex, you'll start wondering how you compare. Ever seen the movie Closer? That's a great example of what happens in relationships when you start asking questions you don't want to know the answer to.

I know you probably want to find out this kind of stuff about your girlfriend, and that curiosity is understandable.

However, the fact that you're trying to get this information out of her through playing Truth or Dare suggests you're pretty young. It might seem like a quick way of getting to know a new girlfriend, but it's also a very quick way to lose a new girlfriend. You don't want her to think you're coming on too heavy or too fast.

What Should I Do Instead?

Be patient. In a relationship, you find things out about the other person gradually, and that's the beauty of it.

If you really want to play Truth or Dare with your girlfriend, keep intimate questions out of it, unless she asks you any. By all means, take her lead if she wants to go down that path, but don't pressurise her.

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